3 Steps to heal, end Unwanted relationship Cycles, and Thrive in your next relationship. 

For Women That:

  • Recently Went Through Heartbreak
  • Have Had 1 or More Disappointing Relationships with Men
  • ​Are Strong in Logic But Struggle to Feel Emotions and Attach in Relationship
  • Attract the Same Types of Men that Let Them Down
  • Can't Land a Satisfying Relationship and it Feels Hopeless

"My main motivation for joining Alive & Free was I desperately wanted to get married...I was so scared of myself...scared of my mess...but in relationships and especially in marriage, pain happens all the time.  If I hadn't joined, I don't think I would be married right now, I wouldn't have the connection with God I have now, and I wouldn't feel as comfortable in my own skin as I am"

"...the goal of joining this program wasn’t to get married as an end result but to be free, to end cycles I found myself in & God did SO much in my heart. Freed me from fear, healed past pain and allowed me to be fully satisfied in Papas love and my own love for myself. In His sovereignty He brought Ryan to me!"

“I used to shame myself constantly for not being good enough...I figured out how to have a relationship, fell in love with an old college acquaintance, and got MARRIED at age 36!”

" opened my eyes to the root of so many problems I had in my life. The testimony Sammi shared about Jesus tearing our walls down really resonated with me because I put walls up in my life. I'm a very defensive, closed off person because I learned that I needed to do that to protect myself, but it ended up hurting me instead. I have felt so freed by the ability to feel "negative" emotions again, I've been able to cry about things that upset me, and I've been working on opening my communication with others to more than surface level stuff" 
- Ashley

"The session really gave me awareness of who I am and that I have freedom in Christ! No matter what has happened to me in my life, there is forgiveness and reconciliation and it is very important to go through this healing process in order to face our past and be able to live burden free each and every day. It does not depend on other people’s actions or words -it depends on what Jesus says and has done for us" 

"Eternally grateful for all you have allowed Him to do through eases my heart to be aware that you know i am a true advocate of the ups and downs you and Spencer have chosen to ride for the sake of us who needed you to be here now....before all the kinks were worked out. I believe you helped to save my life. My husband and family are ever grateful."

“people not knowing me is completely connected to me not knowing me. sammi has exemplified what i wanted to become. my life has changed dramatically. i’m walking in an aspect of abundant life i never thought i’d be able to taste.”

Do we guarantee that this training will "get you a husband in 30 days or your money back"? LOL...  No, that's not the point- sure, a lot of clients of ours have gone from single to dating/engaged/married using this process but the point is to get your heart fully ALIVE and to get FREE from anything keeping you stuck in relationship cycles.  We've Received hundreds of hours of coaching, counseling, and therapy and want to give away what we learned to you.

Most of us come from generations of emotionally shut down families and try to do relationship without ever having seen a healthy model...

About Your Hosts

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Spencer and Sammi Robbins are Christian Life Coaches that, by the grace of God, have worked with more than 4500 clients over their careers refining the process they give away.  They have felt that working through their past pain, shame, and unhealthy cycles has equipped them far greater than their education over the last decade.  They believe that too many disconnected relationships, divorces, people walking away from God, and habits of sin and destructive coping have been a result of not knowing how to work through pain.  Also, that our internal pain and view of God drastically affects the way we show up in the relationships closest to us.

Spencer and Sammi have invested thousands of hours and dollars into individual counseling, coaching, marriage therapy, education for more than a decade but have learned powerful tools and wisdom in emotional health from Holy Spirit to experience radical transformations from self-hatred, self-judgment, and shame. They love Jesus with everything in them and desire to see christians in whole, connected, emotionally healthy relationships.

Sammi began her consulting business as a result of seeing close friends experience breakthrough in their lives after implementing what she learned.  Alive & Free has become so much more than Spencer and Sammi.  Alive & Free is more than 35 team members now with so much more knowledge and ability to help women thrive in their lives and relationships.

If you're like most women that have had to grow up early or become strong at a young age, you find it difficult to know how to be "small" and receive in relationships.  You might have conquered a lot in your life, but when it comes to understanding what the heck is going on inside of you with emotions, you don’t know how you feel, why you feel that way, and you especially don’t know how to communicate those things to the people you love and its hurting your ability to feel connected in intimate relationships.

Maybe you just think you need more time with God…but maybe it’s not your relationship or time with God that is lacking.

How could you ever cultivate a thriving, connected romantic relationship if you have no idea how to understand, articulate, or heal what’s going on inside of you? True intimacy can only be cultivated through vulnerability.  Vulnerability starts between you and YOU.

Biblical References

  • Psalm 77:6- I call to remembrance my song in the night: I commune with mine own heart: and my spirit made diligent search.
  • ​Psalm 4:4- Stand in awe, and sin not: commune with your own heart upon your bed, and be still.
  • ​Proverbs 4:23- Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.
  • Ecclesiastes 1:16- I communed with my heart...
  • ​Proverbs 13:12- Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a desire fulfilled is a tree of life.
  • ​James 4-  What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? 2 You desire but do not have, so you kill. You covet but you cannot get what you want, so you quarrel and fight. You do not have because you do not ask God. 3 When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures.
  • 1 John 4:19- We love because He first loved us.
  • ​John 8:3-5, 10-11- Then the scribes and Pharisees brought to Him a woman caught in adultery. And when they had set her in the midst, they said to Him, "Teacher, this woman was caught in adultery, in the very act. Now Moses, in the law, commanded us that such should be stoned. But what do You say?" 10 When Jesus had raised Himself up and saw no one but the woman, He said to her, "Woman, where are those accusers of yours? Has no one condemned you?" She said, "No one, Lord." And Jesus said to her, "Neither do I condemn you; go and sin no more."
  • John 8:32- You will KNOW the Truth and the truth will make you free (Emphasis Added)
  • Psalm 37:4- Delight in the Lord and He will give you the Desires of your heart.
  • Proverbs 27:19- As water reflects the face, so one's life reflects the heart.